Teenage hood is an experimental stage. It is a stage where teenagers begin to assume they know everything. Many want to belong in diverse ways especially in the area of relationship. Having a boy/girlfriend has now become a norm that almost every teenager wants to keep an intimate relationship with male or female friends. Some even brag about it.

Let us reason together, what purpose is that girl/boyfriend of yours playing in your life that it is so important? Is he or she feeding you, paying your school fees, clothing you or what exactly has your boy/girlfriend done for you that no one else could have done? I want you to be honest with yourself.

May I shock you with this truth?

Many of these relationships are ungodly and they end up in immorality. So, they should be avoided. Besides, this relationship ends in heartbreak. If you think I am lying, ask someone who is mature and willing to tell you the truth.

Let me hint you why such relationships fail at the end.

1. Your emotions at this stage is not stable or mature so many of you will fall in love based on feelings (lust), physical features like the looks, charisma, intelligence, eloquence, money, etc. However, as you grow, feelings fade and those physical features that got you attracted will not be strong enough to keep you. A lasting relationship is built on something much solid than feelings or physical features. True love foundation is required. Hear this: lust fails but love never fails.
2. Teenage hood is an experimental stage as I said earlier, some of these boys and girls are only experimenting with your emotions and with sex, but they will not tell you. When such are done with their specimen, they move on to another specimen. Do not demote yourself to being a specimen in the name of a relationship.
3. Most young girls and boys at this stage do not even know what they want. As maturity sets in, taste, desire and exposure begin to change. For instance, as maturity and exposure sets in, the attributes that attracted a girl to a boy might no longer matter to him, which eventually results in break up.
4. For some of you girls that like to go out with university guys because you feel they are quite mature or whatever, don’t you know that most of these guys are preying on you? They are taking advantage of you because they know that you will appreciate a university student than your secondary school mate. What they want is sex. If am lying inquire from any of your friends who is dating them if they have not been luring her into sex. These guys are just there to catch fun with any available girl. Whatever chicken change they give you is not worth your destiny and your emotions.
5. Change of environment most often leads to a change of exposure, taste and want. In some cases, it leads to lack of communication, which gradually leads to the end of the relationship because some of you may leave your state or country to further your education. A change of environment could also be based on family relocation.

My beloved teens, if you will hearken to my words, this is not the right time for a relationship. You can be easily lured into sex, which could tarnish your garment before God. It may lead to unwanted pregnancy (as it has become rampant) and consequently abortion. All of these are sins before God.

There is no need to be in a hurry, at the due time, you will prayerfully discern the right person who will be a true companion. God did not institute sexual or emotional relationship for children/teens like you or are you ready for marriage? Do not be a victim of heartbreak.

I made up my mind as a young girl that no boy will ever break my heart. Lo and behold, my very first relationship was after my National Youth Service and he is my husband and the father of my children.

So will you make up your own mind today? If you are already in a relationship, ask yourself if God is pleased with that aspect of your life. I would advise you break-up and free yourself. You do not need a girl/boyfriend now.